Oh absolutely relatable. I've always expressed how looking younger was a way to deal with ageism in the job market. It's freeing not to think about that stuff.
Lynn! When I see photos of your beautiful balayage hair, I can see the difference between salon color and my sad box of drug store hair dye. Your hair has so much vibrancy. My hair looks so flat 😂😭. Oh well, maybe after I put my kids through college I can consider getting some professional color.
My hair is so gray that it wouldn't be a possibility for me to go only a few times a year. For some reason I started dying my hair darker around 7 or 8 years ago. I always wonder if I should go lighter again.
Happy birthday, Jenna! Hope you enjoy your special day! Appreciate your honesty as aging is tough and I can feel all my poor choices earlier in life catching up to me. My body feels like it is biologically 15 years older than it really is. Anyway enough about me. I hope Mark has something special planned for you today!! 🎂🎈
Happy, happy birthday, Jenna! I hope your day is filled with unplanned joys.
I am not ready to accept my gray hair, but then I haven’t been ready to accept my dull-brownish-blonde natural hair color for decades, and have treated it as an irrelevance I can pay to vacate. I don’t feel competent to dye it myself, though, and coloring always been a stinging pinch in my wallet even as I enjoy the self-expression of it. Recently I decided I’d be happier with less hair, period. (This is accompanied by deep feelings of gratitude for LGBTQ folk who have fought so hard for survival and representation that now I get the choice, in my normy little way, to not lean so hard into femininity.) Now that it’s short, I wonder what it would look like gray, but I more wonder how I could spend less on it and still like it ok.
And thanks for sharing these drawings! I’ve always thought of charcoal as a vehicle for sketchy gestural drawing, but you wield it with loving precision and I’m in awe.
I am way to frugal for salon maintenance and I'm sure my hair would look better if I had some highlights in it or something. But I also don't even care. I would think that it would be easier to transition to gray with short hair?? But also, short hair is so much more maintenance for me (I had both, the last time was at ITP though!). Basically, I am going for as low maintenance as possible 😬
Happy birthday! Use the dye!! Whatever feels good. Mine started going grey in earnest during the pandemic but I have lighter hair so they hide themselves more easily. Gives me more time to focus on my laugh lines and the growing furrow in the middle of my forehead from 42 years of "you've gotta be kidding me" face. Hope you eat something delicious and the weather stays nice!
I so envy the blondes and the light haired people that can blend the gray so much easily. You can't get any more contrasty than dark brown or black hair. There is a hard line from where my roots end and it looks particularly bad in photos, gah!
Happy birthday! I developed a severe allergy to chemicals in hair dye a few years ago and have been forced, sadly, to accept the multiplying grays. Dye away -- I would if I could!! :)
an other comment from a fan of your writing. You are not alone!
Hair is a such facade of our soul, a statement of how we feel at each stage of our life. Young we rebel, with screaming colors, sophisticated breathes or sharp haircuts. But when the gray appears we know that we went to the other side, there's no going back. Then the little tango danse of acceptance and resistance starts. I went with it, embraced it, owned it, I tried and tried, but my gray was not a happy gray, too dull. Then I didn't like using chemicals, it's a tedious process, it's expensive, I have better things to do. But I did it anyhow. For a long period, reluctantly. And I realized that for my well being I had to find peace with it.
So I did some research and you know as an artist like you, we love exploring and find our own way. Henna became my savior. I love it and my hair too. It is a ritual of care and a day for myself. I enjoy the process and have fun with experiencing various shades of brown playing the apothecary mixing indigo, alma, cassia to henna. I found a platform made by wonderful women, authentic and friendly. I felt that I belonged and found my sisterhood.
I wanted to share how much I learnt to love the process thanks to this platform. To add my take, I kept a color resisting very white mesh framing my face while the rest of the hair is dark brown for contrast and good appearance. This way I don't feel like I am hiding myself, it's playful, honest and fun. Plus it adds flair, I am not invisible anymore. 😊
I love this! And also this process of accepting our grays sounds like the 5 Stages of Grief 😂.
I have used henna before when I was younger. I always assumed that it wasn't strong enough for gray hair, particularly since my hair can be quite resistant to dying. Thank you for sharing your experience and I am excited to learn more!
Oh! No, henna can definitely cover gray hair and even tenacious ones. I spent some time reading on Henna For Hair, a learning platform connected to Mehandi. It's mainly about the plants and their reactions. http://www.hennaforhair.com
I'm trying to stay away from the reddish color of henna, but it can be nice too. As a painter I like mixing colors for tone variations, Blue (indigo) + Red (henna) = Brown. More indigo, the darker it is. Don't hesitate to reach out if you have questions or need help with the process. I have my own recipe and happy to share. 😊
Thanks ☺️
I’m sure I will get there…but I’m not there yet. And I agree, silver can be very beautiful.
Oh absolutely relatable. I've always expressed how looking younger was a way to deal with ageism in the job market. It's freeing not to think about that stuff.
Lynn! When I see photos of your beautiful balayage hair, I can see the difference between salon color and my sad box of drug store hair dye. Your hair has so much vibrancy. My hair looks so flat 😂😭. Oh well, maybe after I put my kids through college I can consider getting some professional color.
My hair is so gray that it wouldn't be a possibility for me to go only a few times a year. For some reason I started dying my hair darker around 7 or 8 years ago. I always wonder if I should go lighter again.
Happy birthday from an other hair dyer :-) I hope you have a lovely day - and year.
Thank you so much Blandine!
Happy Birthday! I always enjoy seeing your newsletter gimmick in my inbox
Jason! Sock cop! Whoa, hello voice from the past!!!!!
Happy birthday, Jenna! Hope you enjoy your special day! Appreciate your honesty as aging is tough and I can feel all my poor choices earlier in life catching up to me. My body feels like it is biologically 15 years older than it really is. Anyway enough about me. I hope Mark has something special planned for you today!! 🎂🎈
Thank you Juliet! I have no idea what food is in store. I requested not going out to eat today, so it will be a surprise!
Happy Birthday! I’m with you, I can’t embrace the silver hair yet.
Solidarity! I do have to wonder when I will? But my mom *still* dies her hair so who knows!
Happy birthday, Jenna! I hope all your wishes come true today and for the year to come.
Thank you Sharon!
Happy, happy birthday, Jenna! I hope your day is filled with unplanned joys.
I am not ready to accept my gray hair, but then I haven’t been ready to accept my dull-brownish-blonde natural hair color for decades, and have treated it as an irrelevance I can pay to vacate. I don’t feel competent to dye it myself, though, and coloring always been a stinging pinch in my wallet even as I enjoy the self-expression of it. Recently I decided I’d be happier with less hair, period. (This is accompanied by deep feelings of gratitude for LGBTQ folk who have fought so hard for survival and representation that now I get the choice, in my normy little way, to not lean so hard into femininity.) Now that it’s short, I wonder what it would look like gray, but I more wonder how I could spend less on it and still like it ok.
And thanks for sharing these drawings! I’ve always thought of charcoal as a vehicle for sketchy gestural drawing, but you wield it with loving precision and I’m in awe.
I am learning too, although these are older and they are done in pencil :)
I am way to frugal for salon maintenance and I'm sure my hair would look better if I had some highlights in it or something. But I also don't even care. I would think that it would be easier to transition to gray with short hair?? But also, short hair is so much more maintenance for me (I had both, the last time was at ITP though!). Basically, I am going for as low maintenance as possible 😬
To me, mid 50s would commence at 55.
It makes sense, but for some reason being 54, saying I'm in my early 50s doesn't sound right to me either 🤔
And PS, birthdays in the office was always quite awkward. That’s why I almost always took that week off.
We should get birthdays off as personal days anyway - that's what I always thought.
We always take it off. It might be controversial, but I wouldn’t mind if the kids took it off, but it’s usually during holidays or exams.
Happy birthday! Use the dye!! Whatever feels good. Mine started going grey in earnest during the pandemic but I have lighter hair so they hide themselves more easily. Gives me more time to focus on my laugh lines and the growing furrow in the middle of my forehead from 42 years of "you've gotta be kidding me" face. Hope you eat something delicious and the weather stays nice!
I have a furrow. Maddening.
I so envy the blondes and the light haired people that can blend the gray so much easily. You can't get any more contrasty than dark brown or black hair. There is a hard line from where my roots end and it looks particularly bad in photos, gah!
Happy birthday! I developed a severe allergy to chemicals in hair dye a few years ago and have been forced, sadly, to accept the multiplying grays. Dye away -- I would if I could!! :)
oh wow. But also, chemicals!! When I saw you, I didn't even notice any gray hair :)
Happy birthday, Jenna!!! 🎂
Hey Terrell, thank you for the birthday wishes!
Hi Jenna,
an other comment from a fan of your writing. You are not alone!
Hair is a such facade of our soul, a statement of how we feel at each stage of our life. Young we rebel, with screaming colors, sophisticated breathes or sharp haircuts. But when the gray appears we know that we went to the other side, there's no going back. Then the little tango danse of acceptance and resistance starts. I went with it, embraced it, owned it, I tried and tried, but my gray was not a happy gray, too dull. Then I didn't like using chemicals, it's a tedious process, it's expensive, I have better things to do. But I did it anyhow. For a long period, reluctantly. And I realized that for my well being I had to find peace with it.
So I did some research and you know as an artist like you, we love exploring and find our own way. Henna became my savior. I love it and my hair too. It is a ritual of care and a day for myself. I enjoy the process and have fun with experiencing various shades of brown playing the apothecary mixing indigo, alma, cassia to henna. I found a platform made by wonderful women, authentic and friendly. I felt that I belonged and found my sisterhood.
I wanted to share how much I learnt to love the process thanks to this platform. To add my take, I kept a color resisting very white mesh framing my face while the rest of the hair is dark brown for contrast and good appearance. This way I don't feel like I am hiding myself, it's playful, honest and fun. Plus it adds flair, I am not invisible anymore. 😊
https://www.mehandi.com/default.asp
I love this! And also this process of accepting our grays sounds like the 5 Stages of Grief 😂.
I have used henna before when I was younger. I always assumed that it wasn't strong enough for gray hair, particularly since my hair can be quite resistant to dying. Thank you for sharing your experience and I am excited to learn more!
Oh! No, henna can definitely cover gray hair and even tenacious ones. I spent some time reading on Henna For Hair, a learning platform connected to Mehandi. It's mainly about the plants and their reactions. http://www.hennaforhair.com
I'm trying to stay away from the reddish color of henna, but it can be nice too. As a painter I like mixing colors for tone variations, Blue (indigo) + Red (henna) = Brown. More indigo, the darker it is. Don't hesitate to reach out if you have questions or need help with the process. I have my own recipe and happy to share. 😊
I love this. I know I was meant to find this today. Thank you beauty.🙏🏼♥️